"Rest, if you must..."

May 24, 2023
Jay Emme sitting at a table in a pub crocheting a poncho

Life is BONKERS AND BRILLIANT, and I'm hardcore manifesting right now. I'm here for ALL of it.

I fly to Texas in 4 days, for Kajabi Hero Live, and I am SO GODDAMN EXCITED for my speaker panel. Even MORE so excited because Sid is coming with me and we’re performing cello solos to maybe a couple thousand people…

But this week I’ve been plagued with a cough and sore throat. I’m entirely NOT surprised. After the crazy and amazingexcitement of the last few months, my body was screaming for a break. Just, 5 mins downtime, just to recover.

Years ago I would have just battled through it, not wanting to seem lazy, or not wanting to feel the guilt of just doing nothing. I had countless bouts of bronchitis and viral chest infections. I ended up having chiropractic sessions almost weekly for sciatic and muscle pain. I remember turning to alcohol dangerously too often, to "help me sleep". (Of course, it did NOT help me sleep.)

It took some internal work, and some joyous self discovery, to learn what I actually needed. It also took moving in different circles, and realigning my internal messaing.

MANY people around us feel it's important to tell us what to do, usually without considering what we really need. Or, without thinking about what's really going on for that person.

 

Just so you know, 

IT IS OK TO SIMPLY REST.

 

And for the record,

IT IS OK TO SET BOUNDARIES.

 

Mine is a different story now, having done a LOT of the work. (Coaching, talking therapy). My ADHD and childhood trauma doesn’t kick me in the ass when I decide things like “yeah…I’mma just take a break, and crochet all day. I’m tired, and it’s ok to put myself first to get back on form.” The incessant need to keep going regardless, or to not be seen standing still for any period of time was overwhelming...until I realised those weren't my own behaviours, and those stories belonged to other people.

Being able to do that, to take breaks, feels bloody AMAZING, and it feels HEALTHY, and it RECHARGES ME.

Burn out is REAL, and it stops me from doing SO MUCH MORE.

The header photo is from when my partner and I did a little road trip last year and stopped at a pub for one of his jobs. Obviously, I whipped out my crochet to work on a poncho. Which, no, I still haven’t finished. 👀🙄😅💜✨

What does rest look like for you? Let me know in the comments down below.

 


 

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